Wednesday Wisdom: Intuitive Reading ~~ What Are You Hiding from Yourself?

You are going to need to draw on courage and strength to face the truth about something. It maybe the way you feel about a situation you’re involved in or something that is happening that you would rather not know about, or a truth about yourself, but whatever it is, you haven’t admitted it to yourself yet.

Know that it is safe to do so and you will be guided and healed and protected. And that loving, angelic help is always available when you ask.

This truth is related to illusions you are holding onto that are holding you back. Remember that many things are not the way they seem. Sometimes we create those illusions to protect ourselves. But you are becoming ready to know what it is.

You are ready now for the transformation and healing that will come from knowing the truth.

Wednesday Wisdom: Intuitive Reading ~~ Something Good is Coming! Will You Allow it?

Open your hands and heart to receive the gifts that are coming your way. Something good is coming. Whatever you allow will show up for you. Expect enchantment and be on the lookout for synchronicities.


There is something you have set in motion and if you continue with it, you will be successful. Within the next few months, something will show up for you, so don’t give up. Carry on, keep moving forward and strengthen your faith and your patience.

Does life feel chaotic for you, right now? Are you overwhelmed?

Slow down. Get grounded and centered again. Make sure you aren’t trying to “push the river”. It’s not always better to get there faster. Spend time regularly grounding yourself. Connect with the earth mother within.

Are you taking enough time for yourself? Is there anything you might be missing because you are keeping yourself too busy? Busyness can be a way to avoid seeing what is right in front of you. Slow down the pace and really take it all in.

Remember that you have all the time you need to accomplish whatever you set out to do. It’s okay to slow down. You will still get there. Don’t let anyone else rush you. Follow your own rhythm.

And remember, too, that you are not alone. You are being held gently in love. Allow yourself to be aware of the deep love that holds you.

Wednesday Wisdom: Intuitive Reading

The Intuitive Message


As you mature in your life as a healer, as you more fully inhabit and express this part of who you are, your “true colors” as a healer will shine forth. Your bright and vivid uniqueness will develop and manifest more and more. It may take time but it will happen.

Know that you are filled with light and can be a reflection of light in the lives of others.

Is there anything going on emotionally that you need to “air out” or that needs fresh air? Do you need to look at it from a new perspective?

Are you avoiding your feelings about this issue?

Look for what needs to transform in your life. There is promise and magic awaiting you as you allow yourself to be transformed.

No matter what your situation is right now, transformation and healing are possible. Give it some sunshine and fresh air, allow a little time, and transformation will occur.

But this transformation may require you to let go of your illusions and release what belongs to the past because holding on is restricting you. When you are able to do that, the transformation that occurs will open the door to a magical, bright future.

This process is not immediate. You may need time to grieve before you are fully able to let go. Allow these feelings to surface. Avoiding them has been weighing you down.

The reward for allowing yourself to grieve and then, letting it go is that you will finally be able to take flight and soar in a way you never have before.

You are about to experience an awakening. Get ready for it.

You are being called to fully become who you are, to access all of the magic within, let go of whatever has been holding you back and take flight. Set your intention, ask for intuitive guidance, call out for healing energy and open yourself to the magic that will take place.

Trust your ability to find the answers you need. Solutions will come to you if you can relax enough to allow them. Begin to stretch into your potential by trusting the magic within you and the wisdom you seek to provide answers, to provide guidance and to bring about awakening and transformation.

Journal Questions

(1) The words that kept showing up over and over again were “magic”, “transformation”, “letting go”, , “awakening”, etc. What do they mean to you?

(2) What might they mean in your life at this point in time?

(3) Is there an area of your life that needs transformation?

(4) A situation that calls for grieving, letting go or a fresh, new perspective?

(5) Are you avoiding any truth in your life? Allowing illusion? Hiding from yourself?

(6) What else did you read that you relate to in this message?

Final Thoughts about Healing

Though we all came here with a spiritual blueprint that, if followed, would fulfill us beyond our wildest dreams, many of us are not fully aware of what we came here to do and those who have had a glimpse of the magnificence of our soul purpose are often scared out of our minds to move toward it.

You may feel that way about being a healer!

Why the fear and resistance? Because of the painful memories that never healed, the limiting beliefs that not only tell us we can't, but program us to fail, and the fear lying more or less beneath the surface that stops us in our tracks every time we take a step in the right direction.

So what do we do? Get busy identifying (the first step) and then, healing those issues, those life lessons, those challenges.

There are many fabulous energy healing techniques that will reach deep into our cells to help us release what binds us. I encourage you to find many to add to your toolbox.

Own Your Power

"Do you ever mistakenly use your own power against yourself? Instead of focusing your creative energies to fulfill your desires, do you channel those energies into negative thoughts, feelings, and visualizations? If so then you're succumbing to an abuse of your own power." -Steve Pavlina, Personal Development for Smart People

If your life lesson is powerlessness, then your primary wounds are related to power, and this is one of the issues that keeps you from living up to your potential.

You may feel powerless to accomplish what you envision, may have difficulty asking others for what you want and may often abdicate your own throne, giving your power away to others. What you're here to do is to heal those wounds and to become a leader in your own life, empowered to envision and then, create the life you want.

And ultimately, owning your power is about authenticity, about being who you really are.

"When you struggle against yourself or resist who you are, you have handed your power away." -Arleen Hannich, Owning Your Power

So there are several ways to disown or misuse your power...

(1) Turning it on yourself by using negative self-talk or giving in to worry.

(2) Hiding pieces of who you are or fighting yourself.

(3) Playing small, denying or abdicating your power.

(4) Refusing to lead when you know you have been called to do so.

Journal Questions...

(1) Do any of these examples feel familiar to you?

(2) Do you sometimes find yourself disowning or giving away your power? Are there situations in your life that you feel powerless to change?

(3) Look back on the stories of your childhood to see if there are patterns in your history of feeling powerless or denying the power you had. How might those stories have been different if you had owned your power fully?

(4) What would change in your life today if you were fully yourself and fully empowered?

Once you have gotten clear about how this life lesson has affected your life, you can begin to identify the memories and limiting beliefs connected to it that need to heal.

Then your next step is to decide how you want to heal them.

Find Your Voice

"The power to discover your voice lies in the potential that was bequeathed you at birth. Latent and undeveloped, the seeds of greatness were planted.... Learn what taps your talents and fuels your passion-that rises out of a great need in the world that you feel drawn by conscience to meet-therein lies your voice, your calling, your soul's code." -Stephen R. Covey

Inability to Speak Up

The life lesson here is the inability to speak up. With this life lesson, your wound has to do with finding your voice.

You may find it hard to tell your own story, to share your feelings or your opinions, especially when there is something you feel strongly about or a situation where you would have to take a stand. You have been silenced, and have lost your voice.

Journal Questions...

(1) Do any of these examples feel familiar to you?

(2) Have you ever had the experience in a group that everyone is sharing their opinion about a topic and you have a fairly strong opinion, yourself, but can't seem to get yourself to say it?

(3) Do you find it hard to tell your own story? If so, what do you find hardest to share?

(4) What about taking a stand? Do you ever have difficulty standing up for yourself? Some people find it easy to stand up for others but nearly impossible to stand up for themselves. Is that true for you?

For each piece of this issue that you relate to, list some experiences from your recent past that illustrate it. What is happening in your life right now that affirms that this life lesson is an issue for you?

How would these stories have been different if you had not had this life lesson?

What would be different in your life today if you were able to resolve this challenge and find your voice?

Now that you have taken a look at how this life lesson has affected you, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. After that, you can choose a healing technique to help them heal.

Because they work at a cellular level, energy healing techniques are a resource I recommend.

Heal Your Money Issues

Do you have money issues?

Are you a damsel in distress?

When I was a teenager, I spent a lot of my Friday nights watching "The Donny and Marie Show". One of my favorite comedy bits on the show was the one where Marie was tied to the railroad tracks and in great need of rescue! Remember that one?

If this is your life lesson, you are wounded in the area of money, integrity, and responsibility.

This lesson may show up in several ways. You may spend or save compulsively, or over-focus on what you can't afford, whether that is time or money, and have a burden of debt that worries you constantly.

You may find that you search for rescue, for some way out of what feels like a money mess!

If you aren't charging what you're worth or are working at a job that you don't find fulfilling, but you stay there for the money, that is part of this lesson, as well.

Your goal here is to live your values and to honor your commitments and to become someone whose integrity you respect highly.

Journal Questions...

(1) Is this life lesson an issue in your life?

(2) How does it show up for you?

(3) Do you tend to overspend? What are your most recent memories of spending more than you think you should have?

(4) Are you more likely to hoard your money? If so, list some recent examples of hoarding.

(5) How much time do you spend worrying about debt? Most people aren't even aware of how much of their days are spent turning it over and over in their minds.

(6) What about charging what you're worth? If you are in business for yourself, give some thought to how you determined what to charge and whether or not this issue resonates with you.

For each part of this life lesson you relate to, give some thought to how much it is a problem in your life. Give it a rating from 1-10.

How would your life have been different without these issues?

When you feel complete with exploring the impact of this life lesson in your own life, your next step is to identify the memories, limiting beliefs and unhealed feelings connected to your money issues.

Once you have identified them, you can find and choose an energy healing technique for healing them.

Heal Your Fear of Success

"Sometimes people fear success because they don't know if they can live up to their achievements. They don't think they're good enough or smart enough. They're afraid they don't have what it takes to rise to the challenge, and they don't know if they can sustain their success. And that's where self-sabotaging behavior comes in." - Laurie Pawlik-Kienlin

Are you sabotaging your success?

Life lessons are the unresolved issues or challenges that keep you from identifying or manifesting your life purpose. The life lesson addressed in this post is failure.

Healing the painful memories, limiting beliefs and unhealed feelings that set you up for failure will help get you out of your own way.

Is failure one of the life challenges you came here to overcome? If so, your task is to heal those wounds, define what success means for you and pursue it, unhindered by fear.

There are any number of beliefs that may be holding you back, but among them might be a belief that you don't really deserve the good that you want. Success may not match the way you see yourself. Or you may be afraid that if you get it, you'll inevitably lose it and not trying at all is easier than facing that kind of loss.

When I think of this issue in my own life, one memory that comes to mind is the time I almost didn't graduate from college. I worked like a dog revising my senior paper during those last two weeks and really, wasn't sure I would be able to pull it off.

How did I sabotage myself? I waited until the last minute, almost, to ask for help! And barely pulled it out of the fire.

Questions for Reflection...

(1) Do you think you might be sabotaging yourself in some unconscious way?

(2) Does it ever feel like no matter how hard you try, something is holding back the success you want?

(3) Have you ever been on the verge of an accomplishment, had it within your sights, and lost it, somehow, before you could complete it?

(4) What about failure experiences from the past that might have been different without this issue? Describe as many as you remember. Include the near-misses, too.

Once you have identified the issue, you can begin to look for the memories and beliefs that are connected to it and work toward healing them so that you can achieve success in whatever way you define it.

Heal Your Lost Child Issues, Part Three

Healing your lost child wounds would mean breaking through the fear that is binding you, finding your voice and stepping into your spotlight. To heal what blocks your self-expression so that you can stop hiding out and put yourself out there in a way that fits your life purpose.

Journal Questions

Here are some journal questions for reflection...

(1) Does the description of the lost child feel familiar to you? Might you have played that role as a child?

(2) What are some lost child experiences you had that are examples of this life lesson? Or examples of hiding out in your adult life?

(3) If you hadn't played the lost child role, how do you think your life would have been different back then?

(4) What are some memories from your past where the story might have been different if you hadn't played this role? Re-write those stories, giving them the ending you think they would have had, instead.

(5) In what way is your life today still affected by this issue? Are you hiding out?

(6) Describe how your life might change if you were able to stop playing this role?

Now that you are more aware of the way this issue has been a challenge in your life, the next step is finding the memories and beliefs connected to it that need healing. Then you can find and choose a healing technique that fits for you.

Heal Your Lost Child Issues, Part Three

"Because they are so often overlooked, they feel lonely, depressed and rejected. They frequently have difficulty connecting with others and prefer to be alone....Because they try so hard to stay invisible, they are often overlooked by people who might be able to help them." -The Center on Addiction and the Family, Brooklyn, N.Y.

Were you a lost child? Are you still hiding out as an adult?

Life Lesson: Hiding Out

Though you won't know for sure what your life lessons are without having your hands read, you can see if this issue feels familiar to you and pursue healing for it if it does.

Using hand analysis, we can examine your fingerprints to determine both your life purpose and your life lessons. Life lessons are the challenges you need to overcome in order to inhabit and live your life purpose fully.

Here you have been wounded in the area of being visible and letting your light shine in the world. This life lesson is about boredom, apathy, and blocked creativity, sometimes to the extent that you deny having it.

There also may be a sense of not fitting in, of not belonging.

In the next post, we look at what healing would look like for this issue and give you a chance to reflect on whether this issue fits or doesn’t in your own life.

Intuitive Reading for Healers...

You are a visionary and a messenger and you are being led, with gentle, loving energy to your life purpose. You are being led home, to the core of who you are.

You know the way home no matter how far away you have wandered. If you are feeling lost, know that there is an instinctive part of you that can lead you back home to yourself.

Remember who you are. Come home to yourself.

Pay careful attention because your soul is sending you messages, gently nudging & guiding you toward your soul purpose. Be open to guidance about how to use your own creative energy to manifest your life purpose.

Be prepared for people who may be unable to understand you or your vision. Don’t let them take your power.

A new sense of empowering and self-worth is awakening in you and it will enable you to triumph over the circumstances you’re dealing with right now.

If you have been going through something difficult or painful, you are about to shift into moving through it in a triumphant way, with a new hope & a new vision.

Heal Your Lost Child Issues & Stop Hiding Out

Long before I changed careers and began working from home, I was a family counselor in the chemical dependency field. We worked with patients and their families to identify dysfunctional family patterns that were keeping them stuck.

One of the things we learned is that families developed certain roles that they played within the family and then, without meaning to, carried those roles out into the rest of their lives.

With each new family that came in, one of the roles I was most interested to identify amonsgt our new group was the lost child, because that was the role I most often played in my own family.

Lost Child

The lost child is the one in the family most likely to be overlooked. On a trip, if they stop for a bathroom break, this is the child they will forget. Lost children are quiet, withdrawing their energy because they believe they will be safer if they aren't noticed.

Unfortunately, they often become so good at being invisible that they continue doing it unconsciously, even after they have left home and become adults.

In the next post, I will describe how lost child issues translate into hiding out behavior in adulthood.

Heal Your Fear of Intimacy, Part Two

Potential Intimacy Issues…

You may find it difficult to create or sustain closeness in your relationships, and have trouble sharing what is going on inside. And you may find that you are not only uncomfortable with sharing your own feelings, but it may be uncomfortable for you when others are open and vulnerable. People who are challenged by fear of intimacy sometimes find it hard to be affectionate with others, even with those who are most important to them.

Healing will empower you to trust yourself first and then, let others in, becoming willing to be vulnerable and to let go of control.

Journal Questions...

(1) Does this description resonate with you?

(2) How would your past have been different if this hadn't been an issue?

(3) How are your relationships today affected by this fear?

(4) If you could resolve or heal your fear of intimacy, how would your life change?

Now that you have taken a look at how this life lesson has affected you, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. After that, you can choose a healing technique to help them heal.

Energy healing techniques heal at the cellular level.

Setting an intention identifies the target and puts in an energetic request to group together the unhealed memories, beliefs and feelings and present them for healing. The healing techniques then remove the pain in each memory and heal the associated beliefs and feelings so that that memory is no longer destructive and thus, cannot hurt you anymore.

Heal Your Fear of Intimacy

"Intimacy in relationships involves sharing what you really think, believe, and feel. It's about opening up your heart and mind, and letting others do the same. Intimacy is risky..." -Laurie Pawlik-Kienlin

Fear of Intimacy

Do you have difficulty being open and vulnerable in your relationships? Are trusting others, surrendering control and letting others get close difficult for you?

Life lessons represent painful memories that never healed, hurt places in our hearts and souls, and limiting beliefs that hold us back and keep us from fulfilling our life purpose.

If fear of intimacy is your life lesson, you have been wounded in the areas of intimacy and closeness, trust and surrender. At the core, you have a fear of surrendering control and a fear of being rejected or abandoned.

"We have a fear of intimacy because we have a fear of abandonment, betrayal, and rejection. We have these fears because we were wounded in early childhood - we experienced feeling emotionally abandoned, rejected, and betrayed by our parents because they were wounded." - Robert Burney, author of codependence, the dance of wounded souls.

In the next post, the discussion of intimacy issues will continue and there will be questions for reflection.

Heal Your Toxic Shame, Part Two

"A shame based person will guard against exposing his inner self to others, but more significantly, he will guard against exposing himself to himself."-- John Bradshaw

Here are journal questions for reflection...

(1) Is toxic shame an issue that resonates for you?

(2) What are some recent examples of this life lesson in your life? List as many as you can remember.

(3) If you hadn't had to deal with toxic shame, how might your life be different?

(4) Describe any stories from your past that might have been different if you hadn't had this challenge. Re-write them, giving them the ending you think they would have had, instead.

(5) How is your life today being affected by your shame? If you could resolve or overcome this challenge, what would change?

Once you are more aware of how this issue shows up in your life, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. They, then, become your target for healing and you can choose a healing technique or strategy that will work for you.

Energy healing techniques work at a deep, cellular level, healing the memories, the limiting beliefs and the wounded feelings we carry around along with them.

Wednesday Wisdom: Intuitive Reading...

You're about to have an amazing breakthrough. Everything you have been working on for years has led you to this point. You've been waiting and the waiting is about to pay off.

But in order to experience this breakthrough, you're going to have to let go of a situation that is stressful for you. Whatever that is, it is part of what has been holding you back, blocking you. You're going to have to let it go.

And once you do, you will take off like a rocket, breaking through all those limitations and moving forward in spite of any lingering fear.

Heal Your Toxic Shame

"Shame is so painful, so debilitating that persons develop a thousand coping strategies, conscious and unconscious, numbing and destructive, to avoid its tortures." -Robert D. Caldwell, M.Div

"Toxic shame is most often multi-generational. Family secrets can go back many generations and can be carried forward generation after generation. Since these secrets are kept hidden, they never get worked out." -John Bradshaw

Life lessons represent areas where we have been wounded, hurt places that never healed and limiting beliefs about ourselves, about life, about relationships, that hold us back.

Blocked Passions/Shame/Numbness

Shame is the predominant wound for this life lesson and shutting down into numbness is a common response to shame. Emotional neglect, overcontrolling parents or sexual abuse may be a part of your history.

Shutting down leads to feeling numb but also to having difficulty with boundaries-knowing what they are or knowing when they've been violated. You may be completely out of touch with yourself and may find it hard to get clear about what you want.

This is a life lesson that keeps people in jobs they don't like. They don't know what they want, instead.

Some part of their soul knows what they are passionate about, what wants to be expressed and lived out in their work and in their daily lives, but that awareness is blocked.

In the next post, there will be some journal questions for reflection about toxic shame.

Heal Your Low Self-Esteem, Part Two

Here are some journal questions for reflection...

(1) Is low self-esteem an issue that resonates for you? List as many examples as you can think of that are evidence of this challenge in your life.

(2) If you hadn't struggled with low self-esteem, how might your life be different?

(3) Describe any stories from your past that might have gone another way if you hadn't had this challenge. Re-write them, giving them the ending you think they would have had, instead.

(4) Are there current examples from your life today that you think are being affected by this challenge? If you could resolve or overcome this challenge, what would change? How would your life be different?

(5) What would you do or not do?

Once you have increased your awareness of this issue in your life, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. They, then, become your target for healing and you can choose a healing technique that fits the lesson you are working on, adding more if you need more.

Energy healing techniques work at a deep, cellular level, healing the painful, unresolved memories, the limiting beliefs and the wounded feelings we carry around along with them.

Heal Your Low Self-Esteem

Low Self-Esteem

If I told you that I had a magic wand and offered to change anything about you that you wanted to change, what would you choose? Would you choose something about the way you look? The way you feel? A health challenge?

Give yourself a huge pat on the back if your first thought was that there is nothing you would change!

From a hand analyst's perspective, low self-esteem is one of the most common life lessons we encounter!

Though you won't know for sure what your life lessons are without having your hands read, you can identify the ones that are familiar to you and still pursue healing for them. My hope is that you will find something that helps you move forward on your path and brings peace and resolution for the issues you identify.

Hand analysis uses the fingerprints you developed before you were born and the gift markings found on your hands to identify your life purpose. It also identifies your life lesson(s), the challenge(s) you need to overcome in order to live your purpose in all its glory.

If low self-esteem is your life lesson, you often find yourself plagued by insecurity, low self-esteem and guilt. Your challenge is to heal whatever wounded you in this area.

To find the memories, limiting beliefs and painful feelings that formed the foundation for this issue in your life. The next post will offer some questions for reflection.

Heal Your Fear of Rejection

The other day my 8-year-old son broke one of the lamps in the living room by throwing a small pillow meant to land on the couch, not the lamp behind it. After we discussed what happened, I went to make a phone call and he settled onto the couch to read a book. About half an hour later, I wandered in to watch TV with him.

When he saw me, he moved the pillows on the other couch, perpendicular to the one he was sitting on and when I asked why he had done that, he said, "I knew you wouldn't want to sit with me!" When I plopped down next to him, I had to swallow a laugh at the look on his face.

"Well, I know you won't want to hug me!" he said, not meeting my eyes. When I scooped him up, he hugged me really tight and I could feel his relief that though I had been angry, I wasn't going to reject him.

How often is fear of rejection a problem for you?

Life lessons represent areas where we have been wounded, hurt places that never healed, and limiting beliefs about ourselves, about life, about relationships, etc., that hold us back.

Everyone experiences fear of rejection or disapproval at some time in their lives, but if it is one of your life lessons, you experience to a sometimes paralyzing degree. You may find it hard to be yourself with others, censoring what you say and being careful about what you do in order to avoid criticism.

There may be times when you catch yourself trying too hard to be liked or you may go in the other direction, so sure of being rejected yourself that you reject others first, so you don't have to experience it.

Is this an issue that resonates for you?

List as many recent experiences as you can think of that are examples of this life lesson in your life.

If you hadn't had this challenge, how might your life be different?

Describe any stories from your past that might have gone another way if you hadn't had this challenge. Re-write them, giving them the ending you think they would have had, instead.

Are there current examples from your life today that you think are being affected by this life lesson? If you could resolve or overcome this challenge, what would change?

Once you have increased your awareness of this issue in your life, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. They, then, become your target for healing and you can choose a healing technique that fits the lesson you are working on, adding more if you need more.

Heal Your Family-of-Origin Issues

"When problems... such as parental alcoholism, mental illness, child abuse, or extreme parental control interfere with family functioning, the effects on children can sometimes linger long after these children have grown up and left their problem families. Adults raised in dysfunctional families frequently report difficulties forming and maintaining intimate relationships, maintaining positive self-esteem, and trusting others; they fear a loss of control, and deny their feelings and reality" -- Group Psychotherapy with Adult Children of Alcoholics: Treatment Techniques and Countertransference, M. Vanicelli, 1989

Healing Life Lessons

This is the beginning of a more detailed look at healing life lessons. There are ten in all, and most people will have more than one. Hand analysis will identify them.

Life lessons are areas where we have been wounded, memories that never healed and limiting beliefs about ourselves, about life, about relationships, etc., that hold us back.

If unresolved family-of-origin issues are one of your life lessons, you are likely to have grown up in an abusive or dysfunctional family. And though you may have left home physically, you still struggle to "leave home" emotionally.

People with this challenge often sacrifice themselves constantly to the needs of family or community, losing themselves in the process. Or you might do the lone ranger routine at times, going it alone to avoid the family trap altogether, and end up feeling disconnected.

If the family gets in on the act, you wind up feeling like you've been left out of the loop or maybe even like the black sheep of the family.

Healing will help to create the ability to engage & connect without being controlled, without losing who you are in the process.

Here are journal questions for reflection...

Is this an issue that resonates for you?

List as many examples as you can think of that represent this life lesson in your life.

How might your life be different without family-of-origin issues?

Describe any stories from your past that might have ended differently if you hadn't had this challenge. Re-write them, giving them the ending you think they would have had, instead.

What are current examples from your life that are being affected by this life lesson? What would change if you could resolve or overcome this challenge?

Once you are aware of this issue in your life, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. They, then, become your target for healing and you can choose a healing technique or strategy that fits for you.

Energy healing techniques heal at the cellular level.

Setting an intention identifies the target and puts in an energetic request to group together the unhealed memories, beliefs and feelings and present them for healing. The healing techniques then remove the pain in each memory and heal the associated beliefs and feelings so that that memory is no longer destructive and thus, cannot hurt you anymore.

Limiting Beliefs: The Lies We Believe with All Our Hearts

What are the lies we believe?

They come from early experiences we have had and have been formed as a way to protect us from hurt. And they lie just under the radar of our awareness. So they kind of operate on autopilot, and we experience their results in our lives, but we do not usually detect them.

Let me give an example of how a limiting belief can form...

Suppose that as a young child, you observe an older brother or sister consistently getting more praise and positive attention than you do. In contrast, it seems that all you ever hear about is what you are doing wrong or what was not done well enough. The images connected to those experiences are buried so deep that you can only bring to mind a few of them, but you remember how it felt to be you back then.

Well, all children find a way to survive those kind of experiences so that they are less painful. Often it is by creating a reason that makes them make sense. For instance, "I can never do anything right", or "I'm not very likable--that's why they like her more", etc!

Those limiting beliefs, destructive interpretations of those painful memories, are so powerful in our lives that they become the foundation for what we experience as adults. In our careers, in our marriages, as parents, as friends.

Do you see how early experiences, that today you might not even remember consciously, could powerfully affect your life experience today?

Research suggests that these limiting beliefs cause over 95% of every problem we have in life! They motivate our thoughts, our feelings, and some of the harmful behaviors and habits that cause us pain and also hurt the ones we love.

Because those beliefs were created to protect us from being hurt again, they lead us to misinterpret things that happen to us today. We perceive "danger", which creates stress and shifts our nervous system into a flight-or-fight response and our cells into self-protect mode. This kind of habitual stress in our nervous system creates pain and suffering and can eventually lead to illness and disease.

They also, in the form of the life lessons or challenges that we can't seem to conquer, keep us from fulfilling our purpose in life.

Here are some of the destructive limiting beliefs that can be a hidden part of our lives. See if any of them strike a familiar chord...

(1) I am unlovable and unwanted

(2) I am not safe so I better not take risks

(3) I am bad so I don't deserve to have anything good happen to me

(4) I can't do it so I'm not going to try

You may have found that other limiting beliefs came to mind as you read those. Jot down the ones that resonate in your journal and try to identify some of the ways they have held you back.

So what can we do about these limiting beliefs when we don't know for sure what they are?

First, we must make a commitment to healing those hurtful memories and learning to believe the truth about ourselves. Then, we can find a healing modality that will not only remove the pain from those images we have stored in our memories.

Quantam physics research has demonstrated that we can harness our own energy to make powerful changes in our physical, emotional and spiritual lives. Aromatherapy, homeopathy, EFT, reiki and acupuncture are just a few of the energy healing systems that can be used to target our limiting beliefs.

Find one that will liberate you from the limiting beliefs that hold you back! Then, we will all benefit from your radiant light and the gifts you are able to offer us just by being you.

How Energy Healing Works & Why You Need to Use It

Most energy therapists, healers, bodyworkers, etc, have one goal: to help you relax at such a deep level that you set your body free to heal itself. Combining more than one method of healing, such as aromatherapy and energy work, creates a powerful healing synergy that will accelerate the changes you want.

Here's how healing works...

(1) The healing method reaches deep, all the way to the cellular level.

(2) Instead of just getting rid of your symptoms or temporarily fixing your feelings, it heals the unresolved memories and beliefs that created the problems in the first place.

(3) Within 20 minutes, every area of the body has been affected.

But what creates all this damage?

Quite simply, it seems to be our painful, unhealed memories from the past that create the stress that damages our minds, hearts and bodies.

Energy therapies work at a deep, cellular level, healing the memories, the limiting beliefs and the wounded feelings we carry around along with them.

Laser healing techniques or systems actually reach into the memory or picture and heal it!

For a powerful synergy in healing that will accelerate the changes you want to make, combine your preferred energy healing system with another form of energy healing, like aromatherapy, homeopathy, flower essences or EFT.

Identify your life lessons or unresolved issues, find the unhealed memories and limiting beliefs connected to them and use energy healing to clear and release them. Once they have been healed, you also can use those techniques to infuse, support and strengthen the thoughts, beliefs and feelings you want to have.

Which Life Lesson is Keeping You from Fulfilling Your Destiny?

What's Holding You Back?

Your hands hold the secret to your life purpose. But they also hold the key to understanding what has been holding you back, what has kept you from manifesting the potential you were given. Once you identify those issues, the fears, the unhealed memories, the limiting beliefs, you can heal them!

So once you know your life purpose, your next step is to identify what is in your way, the hurt places that have been keeping you from living your life purpose. Hand analysis will tell you both.

Life Lessons

Richard Unger, author of LifePrints, and the founder of the International Institute for Hand Analysis, refers to these challenges as life lessons and has identified ten basic life lessons that we have come here to learn. I believe that we have also come here to heal them, and that healing can greatly shorten what might otherwise be a long and painful learning curve.

Once you know your life lessons, dig a little deeper and look for memories and beliefs that are connected to those lessons. They become your target for healing and you can choose a healing technique that fits the lesson you are working on, adding more if you need more.

Here are some journal questions to get you started...

(1) How has that life lesson limited you?

(2) What are the thoughts and feelings that come to mind as you think about being held back in that way? Write them down.

(3) When in your life have you felt that way before? The memories that come to mind are targets for healing.

Four Questions to Consider

(1) Do you want to start a healing business or open a healing practice?

(2) Do you want to work with people in person or work from home with them at a distance?

(3) Do you want to offer healing products (like essential oils or herbal supplements) or offer healing techniques (energy healing, coaching, therapy)?

(4) What kind of products or services do you want to offer?

For an even deeper look at these questions, go to Four Choices.

Do You Know Your Life Purpose?

Do you know what you came here to do?

Using hand analysis, it is possible to discover exactly who you are at the core and to know what you came here to do with the kind of certainty you feel deep down in your soul.

This system of life purpose analysis was created by Richard Unger, who wrote LifePrints, and founded the International Institute of Hand Analysis. Hand analysis uses the fingerprints you developed before you were born and the gift markings found on your hands to identify your life purpose.

That means that by looking at your fingerprints, we can determine exactly what you came here to do!

When we look at your fingers and palms, we also can identify gifts and talents you have been given that you may not be aware of yet. These gift markings add direction to your life purpose or create an area in which to specialize.

As an example, let us imagine that we have been working with Jane to uncover her life purpose. From her fingerprints, we may discover that her life purpose is to be a mentor or life teacher.

But if one of her gift markings is a Neptune star, that would mean that she is gifted at being there for people who are dealing with very difficult life transitions or painful losses, much the way a hospice worker would. So this additional information may mean that she will be most fulfilled if she mentors people going through those kinds of emotionally painful difficulties.

If we also found an Apollo star, which indicates that she needs to be in the spotlight, thriving on applause and appreciation, that would suggest that she might be happiest mentoring through motivational speaking or through writing.

So whether you have no idea what your life purpose is or you have some sense of it but you wonder whether or not you are missing a piece of the puzzle, hand analysis can point the way toward crafting the life you were meant to live.

You already have a piece of the puzzle! You know that you are meant to heal. But how is that modified by the other parts of your life purpose? What else did you come here to do?

Those are the questions hand analysis will answer for you!

For more information, read my book, The Life That's Waiting for You: Four Simple Steps to Identifying & Living Your Life Purpose.

And stay tuned for a program coming soon that will help you identify your entire life purpose, give you healing techniques (and healing meditations) for healing life lessons and teach you everything you need to know about creating a thriving holistic healing career!

Here's What Not to Do

What to Stop Doing

As a healer, it is natural for you to want to help people. But the truth is, we are only meant to intervene when we are asked. I gently encourage you to make a decision to stop insisting that people heal when you know they aren’t ready. When they haven’t even asked for your help.
Bless them, but let them go.

If you are meant to heal professionally, then what’s best for you and everyone who is waiting for your help is that you find a way to get paid to do it.

In fact, in addition to your focus on beginning the healing process, this is your first consideration about your life as a healer. How do you want to help? In what way might you want to help heal the planet? What will your piece of the pie look like?

Begin to consider these questions as you enter the healing, dreaming and visioning process for your life as a healer.

The Heart of a Healer: Now What?

What’s Next?

What do we do now that we have come to realize in the deepest part of ourselves that helping people heal and grow is what we were born to do?

The Healer Manifesto

(1) Accept that being a healer is who you are. Take whatever time you need to come to terms with this awesome, magnificent calling.

(2) Accept the mission and commit to living this purpose fully, inhabiting its energy, every day in whatever way fits your life. Being a healer, or any life purpose for that matter, is not just about what you do, it’s about being, about living from that energy. Become willing to grow into it even more.

Meditate on what it would look and feel like to live within this purpose or gift from the moment you woke up until you went to bed. Having a healer life purpose or gift is not just about what job you will do for 8 hours a day. It is a consciousness you are meant to inhabit! A way of being. What would that be like for you?

"Your life assignment is to inhabit your (healer) consciousness right here, right now, dealing with whatever life sends your way. That is what you came to do in this lifetime. That is where you can find your greatest fulfillment."~ Richard Unger, LifePrints

(3) Make a commitment to healing yourself. The first captive you need to set free is you! It is time to break down the walls, break free from whatever has kept you from full embodiment of your life purpose.

"Healers are challenged to become highly aware of their feelings, thoughts and motivations through getting in touch with themselves. It is no wonder, then, that healers are people whose potential lies in their willingness to visit the shipwrecks of their lives in order to learn about what happened, how they felt about it, how they relate to their wounding experiences, and how these experiences are driving them unsconsciously to do what they are doing now - both usefully and to their detriment."~ Ronelle Coburn, Destiny at Your Fingertips

It is time to heal the unhealed memories, dismantle the limiting beliefs, remove the blocks that have held you back and break the spell that has held you captive. Find a way to let go of everything that no longer serves you.

(4) Uncover the rest of your destiny! What else do you need to know about your life purpose, about your gifts and strengths and challenges and how it all fits together? The answers, the hidden treasure, is in your hands.
Begin to consider how you want to help heal the planet. One person at a time? One couple at a time? One family?

Are you meant to be a professional healer or personal growth catalyst? You are if you checked and found more than five lines. If so, how would you like to do it? There are lots of ways to help people heal!

Healers focus on "personal growth issues" and "blossom into inner-awareness guides, from therapists to Sunday School teachers to motivational speakers with their own corporate jets." ~ Richard Unger, LifePrints

Healers can be bodyworkers, reiki masters, healing touch practitioners. They can be life coaches, counselors, therapists, doctors, chiropractors and aromatherapists. The possibilities are endless.

Begin the process of identifying who you came here to help and make a commitment to help them. Who does your heart most want to help? It may take some time to think through the answer to that question, but you can begin by making a commitment to yourself to find the answer and then, act on it.

Take time to identify and explore what fits for you. It may be what you are doing already, or it might be something new. But whatever it is, you can start now by focusing on your own healing and on sinking deep into this purpose in your daily life.

The Heart of a Healer

What it Means to Be a Healer

If you have been called to be a healer, then your desire to help people is an intrinsic part of who you are. Wanting to help others is who you are at the core.

Helping people change, grow, heal and transform makes you happy. And it hurts your heart when someone is in pain and needs to heal but won’t or can’t.

Because healing has been placed in our hearts, and our hands, we know that we have been chosen to facilitate personal growth and healing. And being chosen is a gift, a privilege and an honor.

"Healing is about helping others to trust and accept themselves, as they are, right now in the present moment, so they can take a look at who they are. Your work is to facilitate personal growth by helping others figure out who they are, why they are having a hard time, how they've gotten to where they are and then assist them in discovering the ways they can help themselves."~ Ronelle Coburn, Destiny at Your Fingertips

Even if you were not consciously aware, on some level you have probably always known that you had this mission, this gift. Other people know it, too, and are drawn to you like moths to a flame.

Healer Quiz

See if you recognize yourself in this list of characteristics…

(1) Complete strangers often come up to you or talk to you while you’re in line at the grocery store and they tell you deeply personal stories for no particular reason. In fact, they sometimes say that they don’t know why they’re telling you their story.

(2) Your closest relationships also reflect this instinctive level of trust and they often tell you that your words inspire or encourage them.

(3) Though people are often disguised by a carefully constructed facade, you are able to see past all that, right into their hearts. Because you can see them clearly, you know what they don’t or can’t see: that there is wonder and beauty inside them, wholeness that they just can’t access yet.

(4) You often know just the right thing to say to someone who is hurting, and sometimes you don’t really know where the answer came from, but you can tell from their response that it was right. Though you may try to be tactful, you have a way of saying exactly what you think, when asked, and people appreciate that about you.

(5) What people may not appreciate as much is the advice that they didn’t ask for or want. Sometimes, you just can’t resist trying to help even if you suspect that they’d rather not hear it.

Do those descriptions resonate with you?