Heal Your Low Self-Esteem, Part Two

Here are some journal questions for reflection...

(1) Is low self-esteem an issue that resonates for you? List as many examples as you can think of that are evidence of this challenge in your life.

(2) If you hadn't struggled with low self-esteem, how might your life be different?

(3) Describe any stories from your past that might have gone another way if you hadn't had this challenge. Re-write them, giving them the ending you think they would have had, instead.

(4) Are there current examples from your life today that you think are being affected by this challenge? If you could resolve or overcome this challenge, what would change? How would your life be different?

(5) What would you do or not do?

Once you have increased your awareness of this issue in your life, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. They, then, become your target for healing and you can choose a healing technique that fits the lesson you are working on, adding more if you need more.

Energy healing techniques work at a deep, cellular level, healing the painful, unresolved memories, the limiting beliefs and the wounded feelings we carry around along with them.

Heal Your Low Self-Esteem

Low Self-Esteem

If I told you that I had a magic wand and offered to change anything about you that you wanted to change, what would you choose? Would you choose something about the way you look? The way you feel? A health challenge?

Give yourself a huge pat on the back if your first thought was that there is nothing you would change!

From a hand analyst's perspective, low self-esteem is one of the most common life lessons we encounter!

Though you won't know for sure what your life lessons are without having your hands read, you can identify the ones that are familiar to you and still pursue healing for them. My hope is that you will find something that helps you move forward on your path and brings peace and resolution for the issues you identify.

Hand analysis uses the fingerprints you developed before you were born and the gift markings found on your hands to identify your life purpose. It also identifies your life lesson(s), the challenge(s) you need to overcome in order to live your purpose in all its glory.

If low self-esteem is your life lesson, you often find yourself plagued by insecurity, low self-esteem and guilt. Your challenge is to heal whatever wounded you in this area.

To find the memories, limiting beliefs and painful feelings that formed the foundation for this issue in your life. The next post will offer some questions for reflection.

Heal Your Fear of Rejection

The other day my 8-year-old son broke one of the lamps in the living room by throwing a small pillow meant to land on the couch, not the lamp behind it. After we discussed what happened, I went to make a phone call and he settled onto the couch to read a book. About half an hour later, I wandered in to watch TV with him.

When he saw me, he moved the pillows on the other couch, perpendicular to the one he was sitting on and when I asked why he had done that, he said, "I knew you wouldn't want to sit with me!" When I plopped down next to him, I had to swallow a laugh at the look on his face.

"Well, I know you won't want to hug me!" he said, not meeting my eyes. When I scooped him up, he hugged me really tight and I could feel his relief that though I had been angry, I wasn't going to reject him.

How often is fear of rejection a problem for you?

Life lessons represent areas where we have been wounded, hurt places that never healed, and limiting beliefs about ourselves, about life, about relationships, etc., that hold us back.

Everyone experiences fear of rejection or disapproval at some time in their lives, but if it is one of your life lessons, you experience to a sometimes paralyzing degree. You may find it hard to be yourself with others, censoring what you say and being careful about what you do in order to avoid criticism.

There may be times when you catch yourself trying too hard to be liked or you may go in the other direction, so sure of being rejected yourself that you reject others first, so you don't have to experience it.

Is this an issue that resonates for you?

List as many recent experiences as you can think of that are examples of this life lesson in your life.

If you hadn't had this challenge, how might your life be different?

Describe any stories from your past that might have gone another way if you hadn't had this challenge. Re-write them, giving them the ending you think they would have had, instead.

Are there current examples from your life today that you think are being affected by this life lesson? If you could resolve or overcome this challenge, what would change?

Once you have increased your awareness of this issue in your life, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. They, then, become your target for healing and you can choose a healing technique that fits the lesson you are working on, adding more if you need more.

Heal Your Family-of-Origin Issues

"When problems... such as parental alcoholism, mental illness, child abuse, or extreme parental control interfere with family functioning, the effects on children can sometimes linger long after these children have grown up and left their problem families. Adults raised in dysfunctional families frequently report difficulties forming and maintaining intimate relationships, maintaining positive self-esteem, and trusting others; they fear a loss of control, and deny their feelings and reality" -- Group Psychotherapy with Adult Children of Alcoholics: Treatment Techniques and Countertransference, M. Vanicelli, 1989

Healing Life Lessons

This is the beginning of a more detailed look at healing life lessons. There are ten in all, and most people will have more than one. Hand analysis will identify them.

Life lessons are areas where we have been wounded, memories that never healed and limiting beliefs about ourselves, about life, about relationships, etc., that hold us back.

If unresolved family-of-origin issues are one of your life lessons, you are likely to have grown up in an abusive or dysfunctional family. And though you may have left home physically, you still struggle to "leave home" emotionally.

People with this challenge often sacrifice themselves constantly to the needs of family or community, losing themselves in the process. Or you might do the lone ranger routine at times, going it alone to avoid the family trap altogether, and end up feeling disconnected.

If the family gets in on the act, you wind up feeling like you've been left out of the loop or maybe even like the black sheep of the family.

Healing will help to create the ability to engage & connect without being controlled, without losing who you are in the process.

Here are journal questions for reflection...

Is this an issue that resonates for you?

List as many examples as you can think of that represent this life lesson in your life.

How might your life be different without family-of-origin issues?

Describe any stories from your past that might have ended differently if you hadn't had this challenge. Re-write them, giving them the ending you think they would have had, instead.

What are current examples from your life that are being affected by this life lesson? What would change if you could resolve or overcome this challenge?

Once you are aware of this issue in your life, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. They, then, become your target for healing and you can choose a healing technique or strategy that fits for you.

Energy healing techniques heal at the cellular level.

Setting an intention identifies the target and puts in an energetic request to group together the unhealed memories, beliefs and feelings and present them for healing. The healing techniques then remove the pain in each memory and heal the associated beliefs and feelings so that that memory is no longer destructive and thus, cannot hurt you anymore.

Limiting Beliefs: The Lies We Believe with All Our Hearts

What are the lies we believe?

They come from early experiences we have had and have been formed as a way to protect us from hurt. And they lie just under the radar of our awareness. So they kind of operate on autopilot, and we experience their results in our lives, but we do not usually detect them.

Let me give an example of how a limiting belief can form...

Suppose that as a young child, you observe an older brother or sister consistently getting more praise and positive attention than you do. In contrast, it seems that all you ever hear about is what you are doing wrong or what was not done well enough. The images connected to those experiences are buried so deep that you can only bring to mind a few of them, but you remember how it felt to be you back then.

Well, all children find a way to survive those kind of experiences so that they are less painful. Often it is by creating a reason that makes them make sense. For instance, "I can never do anything right", or "I'm not very likable--that's why they like her more", etc!

Those limiting beliefs, destructive interpretations of those painful memories, are so powerful in our lives that they become the foundation for what we experience as adults. In our careers, in our marriages, as parents, as friends.

Do you see how early experiences, that today you might not even remember consciously, could powerfully affect your life experience today?

Research suggests that these limiting beliefs cause over 95% of every problem we have in life! They motivate our thoughts, our feelings, and some of the harmful behaviors and habits that cause us pain and also hurt the ones we love.

Because those beliefs were created to protect us from being hurt again, they lead us to misinterpret things that happen to us today. We perceive "danger", which creates stress and shifts our nervous system into a flight-or-fight response and our cells into self-protect mode. This kind of habitual stress in our nervous system creates pain and suffering and can eventually lead to illness and disease.

They also, in the form of the life lessons or challenges that we can't seem to conquer, keep us from fulfilling our purpose in life.

Here are some of the destructive limiting beliefs that can be a hidden part of our lives. See if any of them strike a familiar chord...

(1) I am unlovable and unwanted

(2) I am not safe so I better not take risks

(3) I am bad so I don't deserve to have anything good happen to me

(4) I can't do it so I'm not going to try

You may have found that other limiting beliefs came to mind as you read those. Jot down the ones that resonate in your journal and try to identify some of the ways they have held you back.

So what can we do about these limiting beliefs when we don't know for sure what they are?

First, we must make a commitment to healing those hurtful memories and learning to believe the truth about ourselves. Then, we can find a healing modality that will not only remove the pain from those images we have stored in our memories.

Quantam physics research has demonstrated that we can harness our own energy to make powerful changes in our physical, emotional and spiritual lives. Aromatherapy, homeopathy, EFT, reiki and acupuncture are just a few of the energy healing systems that can be used to target our limiting beliefs.

Find one that will liberate you from the limiting beliefs that hold you back! Then, we will all benefit from your radiant light and the gifts you are able to offer us just by being you.

How Energy Healing Works & Why You Need to Use It

Most energy therapists, healers, bodyworkers, etc, have one goal: to help you relax at such a deep level that you set your body free to heal itself. Combining more than one method of healing, such as aromatherapy and energy work, creates a powerful healing synergy that will accelerate the changes you want.

Here's how healing works...

(1) The healing method reaches deep, all the way to the cellular level.

(2) Instead of just getting rid of your symptoms or temporarily fixing your feelings, it heals the unresolved memories and beliefs that created the problems in the first place.

(3) Within 20 minutes, every area of the body has been affected.

But what creates all this damage?

Quite simply, it seems to be our painful, unhealed memories from the past that create the stress that damages our minds, hearts and bodies.

Energy therapies work at a deep, cellular level, healing the memories, the limiting beliefs and the wounded feelings we carry around along with them.

Laser healing techniques or systems actually reach into the memory or picture and heal it!

For a powerful synergy in healing that will accelerate the changes you want to make, combine your preferred energy healing system with another form of energy healing, like aromatherapy, homeopathy, flower essences or EFT.

Identify your life lessons or unresolved issues, find the unhealed memories and limiting beliefs connected to them and use energy healing to clear and release them. Once they have been healed, you also can use those techniques to infuse, support and strengthen the thoughts, beliefs and feelings you want to have.

Which Life Lesson is Keeping You from Fulfilling Your Destiny?

What's Holding You Back?

Your hands hold the secret to your life purpose. But they also hold the key to understanding what has been holding you back, what has kept you from manifesting the potential you were given. Once you identify those issues, the fears, the unhealed memories, the limiting beliefs, you can heal them!

So once you know your life purpose, your next step is to identify what is in your way, the hurt places that have been keeping you from living your life purpose. Hand analysis will tell you both.

Life Lessons

Richard Unger, author of LifePrints, and the founder of the International Institute for Hand Analysis, refers to these challenges as life lessons and has identified ten basic life lessons that we have come here to learn. I believe that we have also come here to heal them, and that healing can greatly shorten what might otherwise be a long and painful learning curve.

Once you know your life lessons, dig a little deeper and look for memories and beliefs that are connected to those lessons. They become your target for healing and you can choose a healing technique that fits the lesson you are working on, adding more if you need more.

Here are some journal questions to get you started...

(1) How has that life lesson limited you?

(2) What are the thoughts and feelings that come to mind as you think about being held back in that way? Write them down.

(3) When in your life have you felt that way before? The memories that come to mind are targets for healing.

Four Questions to Consider

(1) Do you want to start a healing business or open a healing practice?

(2) Do you want to work with people in person or work from home with them at a distance?

(3) Do you want to offer healing products (like essential oils or herbal supplements) or offer healing techniques (energy healing, coaching, therapy)?

(4) What kind of products or services do you want to offer?

For an even deeper look at these questions, go to Four Choices.

Do You Know Your Life Purpose?

Do you know what you came here to do?

Using hand analysis, it is possible to discover exactly who you are at the core and to know what you came here to do with the kind of certainty you feel deep down in your soul.

This system of life purpose analysis was created by Richard Unger, who wrote LifePrints, and founded the International Institute of Hand Analysis. Hand analysis uses the fingerprints you developed before you were born and the gift markings found on your hands to identify your life purpose.

That means that by looking at your fingerprints, we can determine exactly what you came here to do!

When we look at your fingers and palms, we also can identify gifts and talents you have been given that you may not be aware of yet. These gift markings add direction to your life purpose or create an area in which to specialize.

As an example, let us imagine that we have been working with Jane to uncover her life purpose. From her fingerprints, we may discover that her life purpose is to be a mentor or life teacher.

But if one of her gift markings is a Neptune star, that would mean that she is gifted at being there for people who are dealing with very difficult life transitions or painful losses, much the way a hospice worker would. So this additional information may mean that she will be most fulfilled if she mentors people going through those kinds of emotionally painful difficulties.

If we also found an Apollo star, which indicates that she needs to be in the spotlight, thriving on applause and appreciation, that would suggest that she might be happiest mentoring through motivational speaking or through writing.

So whether you have no idea what your life purpose is or you have some sense of it but you wonder whether or not you are missing a piece of the puzzle, hand analysis can point the way toward crafting the life you were meant to live.

You already have a piece of the puzzle! You know that you are meant to heal. But how is that modified by the other parts of your life purpose? What else did you come here to do?

Those are the questions hand analysis will answer for you!

For more information, read my book, The Life That's Waiting for You: Four Simple Steps to Identifying & Living Your Life Purpose.

And stay tuned for a program coming soon that will help you identify your entire life purpose, give you healing techniques (and healing meditations) for healing life lessons and teach you everything you need to know about creating a thriving holistic healing career!

Here's What Not to Do

What to Stop Doing

As a healer, it is natural for you to want to help people. But the truth is, we are only meant to intervene when we are asked. I gently encourage you to make a decision to stop insisting that people heal when you know they aren’t ready. When they haven’t even asked for your help.
Bless them, but let them go.

If you are meant to heal professionally, then what’s best for you and everyone who is waiting for your help is that you find a way to get paid to do it.

In fact, in addition to your focus on beginning the healing process, this is your first consideration about your life as a healer. How do you want to help? In what way might you want to help heal the planet? What will your piece of the pie look like?

Begin to consider these questions as you enter the healing, dreaming and visioning process for your life as a healer.

The Heart of a Healer: Now What?

What’s Next?

What do we do now that we have come to realize in the deepest part of ourselves that helping people heal and grow is what we were born to do?

The Healer Manifesto

(1) Accept that being a healer is who you are. Take whatever time you need to come to terms with this awesome, magnificent calling.

(2) Accept the mission and commit to living this purpose fully, inhabiting its energy, every day in whatever way fits your life. Being a healer, or any life purpose for that matter, is not just about what you do, it’s about being, about living from that energy. Become willing to grow into it even more.

Meditate on what it would look and feel like to live within this purpose or gift from the moment you woke up until you went to bed. Having a healer life purpose or gift is not just about what job you will do for 8 hours a day. It is a consciousness you are meant to inhabit! A way of being. What would that be like for you?

"Your life assignment is to inhabit your (healer) consciousness right here, right now, dealing with whatever life sends your way. That is what you came to do in this lifetime. That is where you can find your greatest fulfillment."~ Richard Unger, LifePrints

(3) Make a commitment to healing yourself. The first captive you need to set free is you! It is time to break down the walls, break free from whatever has kept you from full embodiment of your life purpose.

"Healers are challenged to become highly aware of their feelings, thoughts and motivations through getting in touch with themselves. It is no wonder, then, that healers are people whose potential lies in their willingness to visit the shipwrecks of their lives in order to learn about what happened, how they felt about it, how they relate to their wounding experiences, and how these experiences are driving them unsconsciously to do what they are doing now - both usefully and to their detriment."~ Ronelle Coburn, Destiny at Your Fingertips

It is time to heal the unhealed memories, dismantle the limiting beliefs, remove the blocks that have held you back and break the spell that has held you captive. Find a way to let go of everything that no longer serves you.

(4) Uncover the rest of your destiny! What else do you need to know about your life purpose, about your gifts and strengths and challenges and how it all fits together? The answers, the hidden treasure, is in your hands.
Begin to consider how you want to help heal the planet. One person at a time? One couple at a time? One family?

Are you meant to be a professional healer or personal growth catalyst? You are if you checked and found more than five lines. If so, how would you like to do it? There are lots of ways to help people heal!

Healers focus on "personal growth issues" and "blossom into inner-awareness guides, from therapists to Sunday School teachers to motivational speakers with their own corporate jets." ~ Richard Unger, LifePrints

Healers can be bodyworkers, reiki masters, healing touch practitioners. They can be life coaches, counselors, therapists, doctors, chiropractors and aromatherapists. The possibilities are endless.

Begin the process of identifying who you came here to help and make a commitment to help them. Who does your heart most want to help? It may take some time to think through the answer to that question, but you can begin by making a commitment to yourself to find the answer and then, act on it.

Take time to identify and explore what fits for you. It may be what you are doing already, or it might be something new. But whatever it is, you can start now by focusing on your own healing and on sinking deep into this purpose in your daily life.

The Heart of a Healer

What it Means to Be a Healer

If you have been called to be a healer, then your desire to help people is an intrinsic part of who you are. Wanting to help others is who you are at the core.

Helping people change, grow, heal and transform makes you happy. And it hurts your heart when someone is in pain and needs to heal but won’t or can’t.

Because healing has been placed in our hearts, and our hands, we know that we have been chosen to facilitate personal growth and healing. And being chosen is a gift, a privilege and an honor.

"Healing is about helping others to trust and accept themselves, as they are, right now in the present moment, so they can take a look at who they are. Your work is to facilitate personal growth by helping others figure out who they are, why they are having a hard time, how they've gotten to where they are and then assist them in discovering the ways they can help themselves."~ Ronelle Coburn, Destiny at Your Fingertips

Even if you were not consciously aware, on some level you have probably always known that you had this mission, this gift. Other people know it, too, and are drawn to you like moths to a flame.

Healer Quiz

See if you recognize yourself in this list of characteristics…

(1) Complete strangers often come up to you or talk to you while you’re in line at the grocery store and they tell you deeply personal stories for no particular reason. In fact, they sometimes say that they don’t know why they’re telling you their story.

(2) Your closest relationships also reflect this instinctive level of trust and they often tell you that your words inspire or encourage them.

(3) Though people are often disguised by a carefully constructed facade, you are able to see past all that, right into their hearts. Because you can see them clearly, you know what they don’t or can’t see: that there is wonder and beauty inside them, wholeness that they just can’t access yet.

(4) You often know just the right thing to say to someone who is hurting, and sometimes you don’t really know where the answer came from, but you can tell from their response that it was right. Though you may try to be tactful, you have a way of saying exactly what you think, when asked, and people appreciate that about you.

(5) What people may not appreciate as much is the advice that they didn’t ask for or want. Sometimes, you just can’t resist trying to help even if you suspect that they’d rather not hear it.

Do those descriptions resonate with you?