Find Your Voice

"The power to discover your voice lies in the potential that was bequeathed you at birth. Latent and undeveloped, the seeds of greatness were planted.... Learn what taps your talents and fuels your passion-that rises out of a great need in the world that you feel drawn by conscience to meet-therein lies your voice, your calling, your soul's code." -Stephen R. Covey

Inability to Speak Up

The life lesson here is the inability to speak up. With this life lesson, your wound has to do with finding your voice.

You may find it hard to tell your own story, to share your feelings or your opinions, especially when there is something you feel strongly about or a situation where you would have to take a stand. You have been silenced, and have lost your voice.

Journal Questions...

(1) Do any of these examples feel familiar to you?

(2) Have you ever had the experience in a group that everyone is sharing their opinion about a topic and you have a fairly strong opinion, yourself, but can't seem to get yourself to say it?

(3) Do you find it hard to tell your own story? If so, what do you find hardest to share?

(4) What about taking a stand? Do you ever have difficulty standing up for yourself? Some people find it easy to stand up for others but nearly impossible to stand up for themselves. Is that true for you?

For each piece of this issue that you relate to, list some experiences from your recent past that illustrate it. What is happening in your life right now that affirms that this life lesson is an issue for you?

How would these stories have been different if you had not had this life lesson?

What would be different in your life today if you were able to resolve this challenge and find your voice?

Now that you have taken a look at how this life lesson has affected you, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. After that, you can choose a healing technique to help them heal.

Because they work at a cellular level, energy healing techniques are a resource I recommend.

Heal Your Money Issues

Do you have money issues?

Are you a damsel in distress?

When I was a teenager, I spent a lot of my Friday nights watching "The Donny and Marie Show". One of my favorite comedy bits on the show was the one where Marie was tied to the railroad tracks and in great need of rescue! Remember that one?

If this is your life lesson, you are wounded in the area of money, integrity, and responsibility.

This lesson may show up in several ways. You may spend or save compulsively, or over-focus on what you can't afford, whether that is time or money, and have a burden of debt that worries you constantly.

You may find that you search for rescue, for some way out of what feels like a money mess!

If you aren't charging what you're worth or are working at a job that you don't find fulfilling, but you stay there for the money, that is part of this lesson, as well.

Your goal here is to live your values and to honor your commitments and to become someone whose integrity you respect highly.

Journal Questions...

(1) Is this life lesson an issue in your life?

(2) How does it show up for you?

(3) Do you tend to overspend? What are your most recent memories of spending more than you think you should have?

(4) Are you more likely to hoard your money? If so, list some recent examples of hoarding.

(5) How much time do you spend worrying about debt? Most people aren't even aware of how much of their days are spent turning it over and over in their minds.

(6) What about charging what you're worth? If you are in business for yourself, give some thought to how you determined what to charge and whether or not this issue resonates with you.

For each part of this life lesson you relate to, give some thought to how much it is a problem in your life. Give it a rating from 1-10.

How would your life have been different without these issues?

When you feel complete with exploring the impact of this life lesson in your own life, your next step is to identify the memories, limiting beliefs and unhealed feelings connected to your money issues.

Once you have identified them, you can find and choose an energy healing technique for healing them.

Heal Your Fear of Success

"Sometimes people fear success because they don't know if they can live up to their achievements. They don't think they're good enough or smart enough. They're afraid they don't have what it takes to rise to the challenge, and they don't know if they can sustain their success. And that's where self-sabotaging behavior comes in." - Laurie Pawlik-Kienlin

Are you sabotaging your success?

Life lessons are the unresolved issues or challenges that keep you from identifying or manifesting your life purpose. The life lesson addressed in this post is failure.

Healing the painful memories, limiting beliefs and unhealed feelings that set you up for failure will help get you out of your own way.

Is failure one of the life challenges you came here to overcome? If so, your task is to heal those wounds, define what success means for you and pursue it, unhindered by fear.

There are any number of beliefs that may be holding you back, but among them might be a belief that you don't really deserve the good that you want. Success may not match the way you see yourself. Or you may be afraid that if you get it, you'll inevitably lose it and not trying at all is easier than facing that kind of loss.

When I think of this issue in my own life, one memory that comes to mind is the time I almost didn't graduate from college. I worked like a dog revising my senior paper during those last two weeks and really, wasn't sure I would be able to pull it off.

How did I sabotage myself? I waited until the last minute, almost, to ask for help! And barely pulled it out of the fire.

Questions for Reflection...

(1) Do you think you might be sabotaging yourself in some unconscious way?

(2) Does it ever feel like no matter how hard you try, something is holding back the success you want?

(3) Have you ever been on the verge of an accomplishment, had it within your sights, and lost it, somehow, before you could complete it?

(4) What about failure experiences from the past that might have been different without this issue? Describe as many as you remember. Include the near-misses, too.

Once you have identified the issue, you can begin to look for the memories and beliefs that are connected to it and work toward healing them so that you can achieve success in whatever way you define it.

Heal Your Lost Child Issues, Part Three

Healing your lost child wounds would mean breaking through the fear that is binding you, finding your voice and stepping into your spotlight. To heal what blocks your self-expression so that you can stop hiding out and put yourself out there in a way that fits your life purpose.

Journal Questions

Here are some journal questions for reflection...

(1) Does the description of the lost child feel familiar to you? Might you have played that role as a child?

(2) What are some lost child experiences you had that are examples of this life lesson? Or examples of hiding out in your adult life?

(3) If you hadn't played the lost child role, how do you think your life would have been different back then?

(4) What are some memories from your past where the story might have been different if you hadn't played this role? Re-write those stories, giving them the ending you think they would have had, instead.

(5) In what way is your life today still affected by this issue? Are you hiding out?

(6) Describe how your life might change if you were able to stop playing this role?

Now that you are more aware of the way this issue has been a challenge in your life, the next step is finding the memories and beliefs connected to it that need healing. Then you can find and choose a healing technique that fits for you.

Heal Your Lost Child Issues, Part Three

"Because they are so often overlooked, they feel lonely, depressed and rejected. They frequently have difficulty connecting with others and prefer to be alone....Because they try so hard to stay invisible, they are often overlooked by people who might be able to help them." -The Center on Addiction and the Family, Brooklyn, N.Y.

Were you a lost child? Are you still hiding out as an adult?

Life Lesson: Hiding Out

Though you won't know for sure what your life lessons are without having your hands read, you can see if this issue feels familiar to you and pursue healing for it if it does.

Using hand analysis, we can examine your fingerprints to determine both your life purpose and your life lessons. Life lessons are the challenges you need to overcome in order to inhabit and live your life purpose fully.

Here you have been wounded in the area of being visible and letting your light shine in the world. This life lesson is about boredom, apathy, and blocked creativity, sometimes to the extent that you deny having it.

There also may be a sense of not fitting in, of not belonging.

In the next post, we look at what healing would look like for this issue and give you a chance to reflect on whether this issue fits or doesn’t in your own life.

Intuitive Reading for Healers...

You are a visionary and a messenger and you are being led, with gentle, loving energy to your life purpose. You are being led home, to the core of who you are.

You know the way home no matter how far away you have wandered. If you are feeling lost, know that there is an instinctive part of you that can lead you back home to yourself.

Remember who you are. Come home to yourself.

Pay careful attention because your soul is sending you messages, gently nudging & guiding you toward your soul purpose. Be open to guidance about how to use your own creative energy to manifest your life purpose.

Be prepared for people who may be unable to understand you or your vision. Don’t let them take your power.

A new sense of empowering and self-worth is awakening in you and it will enable you to triumph over the circumstances you’re dealing with right now.

If you have been going through something difficult or painful, you are about to shift into moving through it in a triumphant way, with a new hope & a new vision.

Heal Your Lost Child Issues & Stop Hiding Out

Long before I changed careers and began working from home, I was a family counselor in the chemical dependency field. We worked with patients and their families to identify dysfunctional family patterns that were keeping them stuck.

One of the things we learned is that families developed certain roles that they played within the family and then, without meaning to, carried those roles out into the rest of their lives.

With each new family that came in, one of the roles I was most interested to identify amonsgt our new group was the lost child, because that was the role I most often played in my own family.

Lost Child

The lost child is the one in the family most likely to be overlooked. On a trip, if they stop for a bathroom break, this is the child they will forget. Lost children are quiet, withdrawing their energy because they believe they will be safer if they aren't noticed.

Unfortunately, they often become so good at being invisible that they continue doing it unconsciously, even after they have left home and become adults.

In the next post, I will describe how lost child issues translate into hiding out behavior in adulthood.

Heal Your Fear of Intimacy, Part Two

Potential Intimacy Issues…

You may find it difficult to create or sustain closeness in your relationships, and have trouble sharing what is going on inside. And you may find that you are not only uncomfortable with sharing your own feelings, but it may be uncomfortable for you when others are open and vulnerable. People who are challenged by fear of intimacy sometimes find it hard to be affectionate with others, even with those who are most important to them.

Healing will empower you to trust yourself first and then, let others in, becoming willing to be vulnerable and to let go of control.

Journal Questions...

(1) Does this description resonate with you?

(2) How would your past have been different if this hadn't been an issue?

(3) How are your relationships today affected by this fear?

(4) If you could resolve or heal your fear of intimacy, how would your life change?

Now that you have taken a look at how this life lesson has affected you, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. After that, you can choose a healing technique to help them heal.

Energy healing techniques heal at the cellular level.

Setting an intention identifies the target and puts in an energetic request to group together the unhealed memories, beliefs and feelings and present them for healing. The healing techniques then remove the pain in each memory and heal the associated beliefs and feelings so that that memory is no longer destructive and thus, cannot hurt you anymore.

Heal Your Fear of Intimacy

"Intimacy in relationships involves sharing what you really think, believe, and feel. It's about opening up your heart and mind, and letting others do the same. Intimacy is risky..." -Laurie Pawlik-Kienlin

Fear of Intimacy

Do you have difficulty being open and vulnerable in your relationships? Are trusting others, surrendering control and letting others get close difficult for you?

Life lessons represent painful memories that never healed, hurt places in our hearts and souls, and limiting beliefs that hold us back and keep us from fulfilling our life purpose.

If fear of intimacy is your life lesson, you have been wounded in the areas of intimacy and closeness, trust and surrender. At the core, you have a fear of surrendering control and a fear of being rejected or abandoned.

"We have a fear of intimacy because we have a fear of abandonment, betrayal, and rejection. We have these fears because we were wounded in early childhood - we experienced feeling emotionally abandoned, rejected, and betrayed by our parents because they were wounded." - Robert Burney, author of codependence, the dance of wounded souls.

In the next post, the discussion of intimacy issues will continue and there will be questions for reflection.

Heal Your Toxic Shame, Part Two

"A shame based person will guard against exposing his inner self to others, but more significantly, he will guard against exposing himself to himself."-- John Bradshaw

Here are journal questions for reflection...

(1) Is toxic shame an issue that resonates for you?

(2) What are some recent examples of this life lesson in your life? List as many as you can remember.

(3) If you hadn't had to deal with toxic shame, how might your life be different?

(4) Describe any stories from your past that might have been different if you hadn't had this challenge. Re-write them, giving them the ending you think they would have had, instead.

(5) How is your life today being affected by your shame? If you could resolve or overcome this challenge, what would change?

Once you are more aware of how this issue shows up in your life, the next step is to find the memories and beliefs that need to heal. They, then, become your target for healing and you can choose a healing technique or strategy that will work for you.

Energy healing techniques work at a deep, cellular level, healing the memories, the limiting beliefs and the wounded feelings we carry around along with them.

Wednesday Wisdom: Intuitive Reading...

You're about to have an amazing breakthrough. Everything you have been working on for years has led you to this point. You've been waiting and the waiting is about to pay off.

But in order to experience this breakthrough, you're going to have to let go of a situation that is stressful for you. Whatever that is, it is part of what has been holding you back, blocking you. You're going to have to let it go.

And once you do, you will take off like a rocket, breaking through all those limitations and moving forward in spite of any lingering fear.

Heal Your Toxic Shame

"Shame is so painful, so debilitating that persons develop a thousand coping strategies, conscious and unconscious, numbing and destructive, to avoid its tortures." -Robert D. Caldwell, M.Div

"Toxic shame is most often multi-generational. Family secrets can go back many generations and can be carried forward generation after generation. Since these secrets are kept hidden, they never get worked out." -John Bradshaw

Life lessons represent areas where we have been wounded, hurt places that never healed and limiting beliefs about ourselves, about life, about relationships, that hold us back.

Blocked Passions/Shame/Numbness

Shame is the predominant wound for this life lesson and shutting down into numbness is a common response to shame. Emotional neglect, overcontrolling parents or sexual abuse may be a part of your history.

Shutting down leads to feeling numb but also to having difficulty with boundaries-knowing what they are or knowing when they've been violated. You may be completely out of touch with yourself and may find it hard to get clear about what you want.

This is a life lesson that keeps people in jobs they don't like. They don't know what they want, instead.

Some part of their soul knows what they are passionate about, what wants to be expressed and lived out in their work and in their daily lives, but that awareness is blocked.

In the next post, there will be some journal questions for reflection about toxic shame.