Heal Your Fear of Success

"Sometimes people fear success because they don't know if they can live up to their achievements. They don't think they're good enough or smart enough. They're afraid they don't have what it takes to rise to the challenge, and they don't know if they can sustain their success. And that's where self-sabotaging behavior comes in." - Laurie Pawlik-Kienlin

Are you sabotaging your success?

Life lessons are the unresolved issues or challenges that keep you from identifying or manifesting your life purpose. The life lesson addressed in this post is failure.

Healing the painful memories, limiting beliefs and unhealed feelings that set you up for failure will help get you out of your own way.

Is failure one of the life challenges you came here to overcome? If so, your task is to heal those wounds, define what success means for you and pursue it, unhindered by fear.

There are any number of beliefs that may be holding you back, but among them might be a belief that you don't really deserve the good that you want. Success may not match the way you see yourself. Or you may be afraid that if you get it, you'll inevitably lose it and not trying at all is easier than facing that kind of loss.

When I think of this issue in my own life, one memory that comes to mind is the time I almost didn't graduate from college. I worked like a dog revising my senior paper during those last two weeks and really, wasn't sure I would be able to pull it off.

How did I sabotage myself? I waited until the last minute, almost, to ask for help! And barely pulled it out of the fire.

Questions for Reflection...

(1) Do you think you might be sabotaging yourself in some unconscious way?

(2) Does it ever feel like no matter how hard you try, something is holding back the success you want?

(3) Have you ever been on the verge of an accomplishment, had it within your sights, and lost it, somehow, before you could complete it?

(4) What about failure experiences from the past that might have been different without this issue? Describe as many as you remember. Include the near-misses, too.

Once you have identified the issue, you can begin to look for the memories and beliefs that are connected to it and work toward healing them so that you can achieve success in whatever way you define it.